Why Some Kids Quit Training Too Early – And How to Help Them Persevere

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Modern children face unique challenges: they’re easily triggered, glued to screens, and often reluctant to move their bodies, which has lead to up to 25 per cent of children in Australia being either overweight or obese. This trend has seeped into self-defence classes, where kids drop out prematurely and miss out on invaluable life lessons.

Yet self-defence training offers more than just physical skills—it cultivates discipline, resilience, and accountability.

Here’s why so many youngsters stall early on, and what parents and instructors can do to help them stick with it.

1. The Instant-Gratification Generation

Today’s kids are accustomed to on-demand entertainment and instant rewards. Video games load in seconds, social media provides quick dopamine hits.

In stark contrast, real self-defence training just like the acquisition of any other skill like piano or mathematics, requires patience: mastery takes repetition, persistence, and time.

When progress isn’t immediate, children often become frustrated, lose interest, and view classes as too hard rather than a growth opportunity.

2. Sensitivity, Anxiety, and the Avoidance Mindset

Many children are more emotionally fragile than previous generations. A minor setback or a tough drill can trigger anxiety or tears, leading them to avoid challenges altogether. Instead of pushing past discomfort, they see quitting as the easy way out.

Without learning to tolerate stress and failure, they miss the chance to build confidence and mental toughness—two core benefits of self-defence training. It also makes them more vulnerable to bullying.

3. The Role of Instructors and Curriculum Quality

Not every self-defence program is created equal. Some instructors rely on outdated lesson plans or lack the energy to engage young students.

Poorly structured classes fail to hold attention, reinforcing a child’s belief that training is boring or “too much work.” Conversely, passionate instructors who deliver an exciting, age-appropriate curriculum can ignite curiosity, keep kids motivated, and turn initial resistance into lasting commitment.

4. Phone Addiction and Social Skills Deficit

Smartphones and tablets have ensnared even the youngest children. They’d rather swipe than spar. Excess screen time also stunts social development—many kids today struggle with face-to-face interactions and teamwork.

Martial arts classes provide a structured social environment where respect, communication, and camaraderie are reinforced. Yet, if children won’t put down their phones, they’ll never engage fully.

5. Overcoming Fear of Competition

Some children shy away from any form of competition—even competing against their own personal best. This fear limits their willingness to train hard and celebrate small victories. Martial arts naturally encourages goal-setting through belt ranks and skill benchmarks.

When instructors emphasise self-improvement over comparison with others, kids learn to appreciate friendly competition and internalise a growth mindset.

Turning Quitters Into Lifelong Martial Artists

The Power of Consistency

I’ve seen countless students who begged to quit during their first year. They complained about soreness, they didn’t want to train, and they resisted corrections.

Fast forward six to ten years: those same kids are dedicated black belts with confidence, discipline, and impressive skillsets. The secret? Consistent practice and unwavering support from both instructors and parents.

Collaboration Between Parents and Instructors

Parents who stick by the process—encouraging attendance, celebrating small wins, and modeling commitment—make a world of difference.

Open communication with instructors helps address a child’s specific struggles, whether it’s shyness, fear, or frustration. When families and trainers unite around shared goals, children feel accountable and connected to their training journey.

Redefining “Quitting” vs. “Moving On”

There’s an important distinction between quitting out of impatience and thoughtfully choosing a new activity. True “quitting” implies avoidance of discomfort and a pattern of starting—but not finishing—tasks. “Moving on,” however, comes after careful reflection and a sense of closure. In martial arts, coaches can guide children to make informed decisions by highlighting transferable skills: discipline, focus, and respect will benefit them in any future pursuit.